I'm about to give up on singing. Help please?!?

So I love singing, with a passion!! But lately i've been doing it very badly. And it's sad, cause I used to be really good at it.


I didn't know if it was just me so I posted a couple youtube videos of me singing, just audio no pictures of me.


And people told me it was good, but more people told me it was bad and I have to work on singing!


Well, I always am working on my singing, I sing all the time and try to correct it. But it's just how I sing.


I had singing lessons but ater the first one I quit.


Because it was too uncomfortable for me.


I have no confidence in singing at all and it makes it worse when people are putting it down.


As it is, I have no confidence in myself.





Please someone help!!
I'm about to give up on singing. Help please?!?
well, without confidence, nothing is possible. i was in your position at one time. but i didnt give up. find the genre that fits YOU not what other want you to. with perserverance, you will be fine. dont listen to the people on Youtube, they are always tryna make you feel bad.
Reply:I think it is so important you have a passion. Please remember the very first reason why you like singing. Don't matter what people say because most of the time, people around you who are not deeply involve with music, don't know how to judge well. You are your own judge. If you think you're good, you're good. The first step for the passion of singing to waste away is doubting yourself. Whenever you that you doubt your singing ability, don't think further, instead stray away from that thought.





Quote from The Carpentar's hit "Sing", lyrics, " Sing, sing a song, sing out loud, sing out strong. Don't worry that it's not good enough for everyone else to hear, just sing, sing a song."





I believe you are further demoralised when people put you down, BUT, you have a choice to tell yourself, "Why are they doing this, am I really that bad" or "They don't know anything. I believe in myself strongly. I won't let my passion die out because of them. " Choose not to listen to others and have a positive attitude, I really hope this helps because it's no longer about your ability, it's your confidence and confidence is a choice.





Good luck and never stop singing. TAKe GOOD CARE OF YOUR VOICE AS WELL. =)
Reply:First of all, you must enjoy what you do, nobody is born knowing it all and some people need to work harder than others.





Secondly, you should hear to everybody nicely but not LISTEN to everybody, there will be always people that won't like you and it is just that. I mean, even Jesus was hated for how many?...are you with me? so...back to the first rule...Enjoy what you do.





One bad decision you made was to quit your voice lessons after the first try, you just didn't give yourself the opportunity to understand what it was, nor you give the opportunity to your teacher. Look for a GOOD voice teacher and stick to it for a while until your understanding of singing begin to make sense to you.





And last but not least, try the following breathing technique and implement it to your singing:





The diaphragmatic breathing will help your voice to resonate full and free of tensions; will avoid sore throats and vocal fatigue. That is why a good breathing technique is very important to have.





Here the short version on breathing support:





1) Lay down on your back and take notice of how your abdominal area moves easy up when you inhale, down when you exhale. No tension and nothing else involved in the process right? Ok, then next step.





2) Standing up, find the same breath process you do, but this time, the gravity is doing its job and there are other muscles involved that allow you to be standing up plus...your chest will be down or collapsed. Then, stand straight, do not over do it, just straight and raise your arms. Get one hand down slowly and find your sternum, get the other hand down and get it where your other hand is. Can you feel how high your chest feels? Right! that is the position we want. Did you move anything besides your arms? If you did, go back and try it again. Are your shoulders relaxed or up? If they are up or tense, go back and try it again.





3) Once you are in a standing straight position, then recreate the sensation of you breathing while laying down...It might seem that you cannot breath deep with this straight position, believe me it is possible, keep trying until you get the same relaxation process you experienced when laying down.


Note: If this was not enough trouble lol! your chest MUST stay up when you release the air.





4) Remember, never during this process you must experience any tension, try this in short sessions of 5-10 min. Once you feel comfortable with this, then you are getting ready to start making sounds. Get back with me and I will give you some exercises. But before anything else, you must master breathing. Good luck and HAVE FUN while getting to know your body and your instrument!
Reply:don't care what people say because it's making you want to stop what you love. keep singing and get singing lessons. practice makes perfect. put you emotions in your song. it will be beliveable and sound cool too. im sure you have a lovely voice don't let them bring you down.


good luck hope i helped!
Reply:Have confidence in yourself. Do not mind what they say. Keep on working on your singing. If you just can't do it, maybe you just lack self-confidence or maybe that is not the genre of your voice. Discover the genre of your voice. Then work on it.
Reply:Get a voice teacher! It's the only thing that really helps your singing!
Reply:Singing is something you should do because you love it. It shouldn't be something you do to please other people.





Quitting lessons after one lesson is a bad idea. You can't fix anything in just one lesson. If you keep practicing bad habits you ingrain them into your muscle memory. You need to learn how to create NEW habits and you will need some instruction on how to do that. If you don't like the first teacher you find then find another one. Voice lessons SHOULD make you uncomfortable. A good teacher will take you outside your comfort zone. Quitting because of that is defeating the purpose of taking lessons.





As for confidence, be careful what you tell yourself because you believe what you tell yourself. If other people bother you then DON'T ASK THEM FOR THEIR OPINION! If you are not able to do something say "I am not able to do that YET. But I am learning." The way you talk to yourself has a very big affect on your confidence. Talk to yourself the way you would talk to a friend. Being highly critical is not productive.
Reply:ok. if you like it so much why are you quitting all the time?